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1) Do you have a middle name? If so, is there a story behind it? If not, what would you choose as a middle name if you got the choice?
2) Have you ever tie-dyed anything?
3) Describe the person closest in location to you at this moment in at least six words. If you can’t see/don’t know about that person, tell me three people you would love to have as a roommate.
4) How do you feel about wristwatches?
5) What color/pattern are your bedsheets?
6) Take the book closest to you. What’s the seventeenth word on page 89?
7) Best way to eat Nutella?
8) Would you ever go into space, if given the opportunity? Why/why not?
9) Tell me the first three interesting words that come to your head.
10) What instrument do you wish you could play?
11) Something that made you laugh recently?
12) Something that made you sad recently?
13) Do you have any hobbies that you’ve let fall by the wayside?
14) What was your favorite movie as a child? Has your opinion on it changed at all?
15) Do you have a favorite outfit?
16) How do you pronounce Ouija Board? Have you ever used one?
17) Are you happy right now? Like, right at this moment?
18) Favorite type of candy? Least favorite? Why?
19) Do you bake? Cook? Any interesting baking or cooking stories to tell me?
20) Do you have 20/20 vision? If not, do you prefer glasses or contacts? Why?
21) Are you ticklish?
22) What hairstyle do you prefer on yourself? On others? Why?
23) Do you have any mosquito bites right now?
24) Do you have any bruises at the moment? From what?
25) Do you have any scars with interesting stories behind them? Care to share?

What is your favorite…and why?

26) Flower?
27) Thing on your desk right now?
28) Color of M&M?
29) Fruit?
30) Type of Oreo?
31) Marine animal?
32) Decoration on your wall?
33) Insect/Arachnid/Bug/Creepie-Crawlie?
34) Spice Girl?
35) App?
36) Member of Mystery, Inc.?
37) Band?
38) Prime number?
39) Piece of jewelry/accessory?
40) Non-tumblr social media site?
41) Language?
42) Place to read?
43) Crayola crayon?
44) Museum you’ve visited?
45) Body of water?
46) Amusement park ride?
47) Podcast?
48) Bread product?
49) Place to window-shop?
50) Flavor of tea?

Tell me a song that…

51) …has been in your head recently?
52) …reminds you of someone you like-like? Why?
53) …reminds you of an ex?
54) …reminds you of a best friend? Why?
55) …you used to hate?
56) …you used to love?
57) …you love despite not knowing all the words?
58) …you have sung at karaoke before?
59) …makes you feel happy? Why?
60) …would go on a pump-up playlist, if you had/have one?
61) …reminds you of a character or ship? Why?
62) …is a cover that you like better than the original?
63) …is the most recent song you’ve listened to?
64) …you wouldn’t play around your parents?
65) …you could listen to over and over without getting sick of?
66) …starts with ‘R’?
67) …has exactly four words in the title?
68) …ends with ‘T’?
69) …you want to have sex to?
70) …you have made out to in the past?
71) …is on the radio far too much for your liking?
72) …was recommended to you?
73) …has your name in it?
74) …is performed by a band with a type of animal in their name?
75) …you’ve seen performed live?

Sleepover Questions (the deep, the dark, the goofy)

76) Have you had any nightmares recently? What about? Do you get recurring nightmares?
77) Do you get intrusive thoughts? (Involuntary, unwelcome thoughts such as “I could easily run over this pedestrian.”) What’s one that really bothers you?
78) If you could pass any three laws (globally/nationally/locally/universally?) without requiring them to be approved by anyone else, what would your priorities be?
79) What field or cause do you think requires the most activism? Why? Have you been an activist in this field? Would you?
80) If you had to choose out of the people in your life right now, name your bridesmaids/groomsmen/nonbinarypeopleupatthefrontofyourweddingwithyou. Ignore the identity of the bride/groom/spouse; they’re not important to this question. And possibly not to your life, who knows?
81) Pillow fight? Right here, right now?
82) Have you ever actually had a pillow fight at a sleepover? Was it iconic and memorable?
83) Is there anything unhealthy and delicious in the fridge?
84) What’s your favorite breakfast food?
85) What are your deepest fears? Is there a reason for these, do you think?
86) Are you afraid of the dark?
87) What item of media (TV episode, movie, etc.) has scared you the most? Why?
88) What are the three (or more!) parts of your body that you have the most confidence about?
89) What part of your body do you have the least confidence about?
90) What are some aspects of your personality that you like? That you dislike? Why?
91) Have you ever had to get rid of a toxic friend?
92) Okay, fine, tell me the sex-related thing you want to tell me but don’t want to seem too eager to tell me. Fantasy, real-life story about you, plans for the future, gossip you heard from someone else. Or all of the above, if you’re in a sharing mood.
93) Tell me about your best friend, or one of your best friends. Why are they so important to you? How long have you known them?
94) What do you do to get out of a funk?
95) What’s something worrying you right now?
96) What’s the best dream you remember having, recently or not? Tell me about it?
97) If you had to spend the rest of your life inserted into the plot and world of one movie, which would it be and why? What about a realistic movie? A fantasy/sci-fi movie?
98) Do you keep a journal? How about a notebook? If so, what do you keep in your journal and/or notebook(s)?
99) Do you write poetry? Why or why not?
100) Answer the question you wish I had asked, in as much or as little detail as you like.


the greatest plan in history








Can we all please take a moment to appreciate Hagrid here? Seriously, everyone always talks about how Harry has no father figure and how terrible it was for Sirius to die because now Harry’s all alone (dont get me wrong, Sirius is my favorite character) but honestly, Hagrid is the best father Harry ever had. He did so much for him, and no one, sometimes not even Harry realizes that. Hagrid gets no where near the mount of credit he deserves. Take a minute and try to imagine where Harry would be with out him and you’ll understand what im talking about.

I think JKR said it was really important to her that Hagrid carried him out of the forest, because he carried him to safety when he was a baby. Hagrid has been there since the beginning, and he was also there at the culmination of Harry’s journey. He’s always cared SO MUCH and been really open with Harry for the most part, which is something Harry needs since people tend to keep secrets from him. Yeah, he’s irresponsible with the monsters, but all of Harry’s father figures were pretty irresponisble, and Hagrid was definitely like, the most solid and reliable out of all of them. And he never left.

im crying

Hagrid was also most like a parent in his correction of Harry. For Sirius and Molly, Harry could do no wrong. Dumbledore saw Harry’s flaws, but he depended on them for his own plans to work.

But Hagrid saw Harry for exactly who he was, good and bad. He was the first to publicly defend Harry’s innocence anytime he got blamed for something he didn’t do; but he was also the first to call Harry out on his treatment of Hermione in PoA. He is consistently honest and forthright in addressing Harry’s behaviour and choices, and always acts in the way he believes will be best for Harry’s growth and especially for his moral development.

Harry is the man he is because of Hagrid. No one else did that for him. 

Awesome point, awesome awesome.

I also think that everyone forgets how much Hagrid went through as well.  I mean yes Sirius was falsely put in Azkaban but Hagrid was denied his magic, expelled from school and could only get a job working in a school full of people who could do magic. Hagrid couldn’t really work in the muggle world very well, what with being half giant. Yet he never grumbled, he was so kind. Plus he was so gentle and sweet. Not many people could become best friends with an enormous spider and actually care for it. Hagrid cared about everybody and everything, not just Harry even after everything that had happened to him.


Let us not forget that Hagrid gave Harry his first birthday present. Hagrid was so eager to see the little boy he carried to safety again, and let him know he was loved and missed. His first priority was seeing to what Harry needed emotionally and he BROKE A LAW essentially to punish someone who tried to take that present from that boy who’d never been given anything good in his young life.

Hagrid, I think, would have loved to raise Harry as his own. He would have made sure the boy was well taken care of, never missed a meal, never forgot he was loved, never let him get away with bullshit…

But he wasn’t allowed, and right away in the very beginning you can tell that giving this child away hurt him quite terribly. He wept for the boy who lost his parents and had to live away from his heritage. He hated seeing him go.

Hagrid was the first person to tell Harry the truth about his parents, that they weren’t horrible people, that they’d loved him… And he was the first person to be outraged that this boy he was told would be safe, was harmed in such a fundamental way.

Hagrid is so important.

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Do Andy Goldsworthy’s beautiful ice and snow sculptures give you chills? 





"Never did like that much," is a baller and superb way to express your irritation with the way the patriarchy refuses to acknowledge how badass you are.


Before World War I, she shot a cigarette out of the mouth of the Kaiser of Germany at his request.
After the war started she sent him a letter asking for another chance, as she was afraid her aim might’ve been a little off.

Annie Fucking Oakley everyone





"Never did like that much," is a baller and superb way to express your irritation with the way the patriarchy refuses to acknowledge how badass you are.


Before World War I, she shot a cigarette out of the mouth of the Kaiser of Germany at his request.

After the war started she sent him a letter asking for another chance, as she was afraid her aim might’ve been a little off.

Annie Fucking Oakley everyone

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A Proposed General Rule about Pictures of Naked People



I mean, I’m not saying that we can enforce this as law or anything. I also might be wrong about this. But:

Just as a general rule, I feel like we should not look at pictures of the breasts or genitalia of people who would rather we not look at pictures of their breasts or genitalia.

As a corollary to that general rule, I would add that I don’t see anything wrong with looking at pictures of breasts or genitalia of people who have invited us to do so. There seem to be plenty such pictures for us to get a reasonably good grasp of, like, the diversity of unclothed human anatomy without having to look at people who wish we wouldn’t.

This seems pretty straightforward to me. Yes, the photographer(s) who photographed Kate Middleton’s grainy distant breasts were violating her privacy. But so do people who choose to look at those pictures.

So maybe we can just agree not to? And this goes not only for princesses, I would argue, but also for people who send things to their romantic partners, who turn out to be jerks and release those photos publicly. Or people whose phones are hacked. etc.

In this world where most every curiosity can be satiated, it seems to me genuinely heroic to resist the urge to look at everything that can be seen, and instead to respect the wishes of those who feel violated or hurt by the availability of images they wish were private.

Seemed a good day to reblog this.



all i want is for people to look at the parallels between gamora and nebula in gotg and thor and loki in thor, and give as much of a shit about nebula as they do loki


ok seriously, it really bothers me how much they reduce Ginny's personality in the movies

  • Original HBP script (actually retained some of book Ginny's sassiness)
  • Ginny : Hedwig...? Mum!
  • Mrs. Weasley: What is it, Ginny? Is it your father? Has something happened at the Ministry? Has he been kidnapped? Is it the Death Eaters?
  • Ginny: Exactly. How’d you guess?
  • Mrs. Weasley throws her hands up over her face.
  • Ginny: I’m joking, Mum.
  • Mrs Weasley: You’re worse than Fred and George.
  • Ginny: Now you’re joking. I was only wondering when Harry got here.
  • Mrs. Weasley: Harry who?
  • Ginny: Harry Dimpleton. Harry Potter, of course.
  • Mrs. Weasley: I think I’d know if Harry Potter was in my house, wouldn’t I?
  • Ginny: Well his trunk’s in the kitchen. And his owl.
  • .
  • ... and then the final version (aka the usual removal of emotions)
  • Ginny: Hedwig... Mum!
  • Mrs. Weasley: What is it, Ginny?
  • Ginny: I was only wondering when Harry got here.
  • Mrs. Weasley: Harry who?
  • Ginny: Harry Potter, of course.


Apparently it’s not socially acceptable for a man to invite another man out just for coffee or to go out for a meal, in case it’s perceived as a date. Like it’s fine if you wanna go to the pub and drink beer and have a chat but make it non-alcoholic and suddenly you’re not straight anymore? You can go to the cinema together but ONLY if it’s an action movie. You guys can’t even just go shopping with each other. Oh masculinity, so fragile, so strange. 

1. Trauma permanently changes us.

This is the big, scary truth about trauma: there is no such thing as “getting over it.” The five stages of grief model marks universal stages in learning to accept loss, but the reality is in fact much bigger: a major life disruption leaves a new normal in its wake. There is no “back to the old me.” You are different now, full stop.

This is not a wholly negative thing. Healing from trauma can also mean finding new strength and joy. The goal of healing is not a papering-over of changes in an effort to preserve or present things as normal. It is to acknowledge and wear your new life — warts, wisdom, and all — with courage.

2. Presence is always better than distance.

There is a curious illusion that in times of crisis people “need space.” I don’t know where this assumption originated, but in my experience it is almost always false. Trauma is a disfiguring, lonely time even when surrounded in love; to suffer through trauma alone is unbearable. Do not assume others are reaching out, showing up, or covering all the bases.

It is a much lighter burden to say, “Thanks for your love, but please go away,” than to say, “I was hurting and no one cared for me.” If someone says they need space, respect that. Otherwise, err on the side of presence.

3. Healing is seasonal, not linear.

It is true that healing happens with time. But in the recovery wilderness, emotional healing looks less like a line and more like a wobbly figure-8. It’s perfectly common to get stuck in one stage for months, only to jump to another end entirely … only to find yourself back in the same old mud again next year.

Recovery lasts a long, long time. Expect seasons.

4. Surviving trauma takes “firefighters” and “builders.” Very few people are both.

This is a tough one. In times of crisis, we want our family, partner, or dearest friends to be everything for us. But surviving trauma requires at least two types of people: the crisis team — those friends who can drop everything and jump into the fray by your side, and the reconstruction crew — those whose calm, steady care will help nudge you out the door into regaining your footing in the world. In my experience, it is extremely rare for any individual to be both a firefighter and a builder. This is one reason why trauma is a lonely experience. Even if you share suffering with others, no one else will be able to fully walk the road with you the whole way.

A hard lesson of trauma is learning to forgive and love your partner, best friend, or family even when they fail at one of these roles. Conversely, one of the deepest joys is finding both kinds of companions beside you on the journey.

5. Grieving is social, and so is healing.

For as private a pain as trauma is, for all the healing that time and self-work will bring, we are wired for contact. Just as relationships can hurt us most deeply, it is only through relationship that we can be most fully healed.

It’s not easy to know what this looks like — can I trust casual acquaintances with my hurt? If my family is the source of trauma, can they also be the source of healing? How long until this friend walks away? Does communal prayer help or trivialize?

Seeking out shelter in one another requires tremendous courage, but it is a matter of life or paralysis. One way to start is to practice giving shelter to others.

6. Do not offer platitudes or comparisons. Do not, do not, do not.

“I’m so sorry you lost your son, we lost our dog last year … ” “At least it’s not as bad as … ” “You’ll be stronger when this is over.” “God works in all things for good!”

When a loved one is suffering, we want to comfort them. We offer assurances like the ones above when we don’t know what else to say. But from the inside, these often sting as clueless, careless, or just plain false.

Trauma is terrible. What we need in the aftermath is a friend who can swallow her own discomfort and fear, sit beside us, and just let it be terrible for a while.

7. Allow those suffering to tell their own stories.

Of course, someone who has suffered trauma may say, “This made me stronger,” or “I’m lucky it’s only (x) and not (z).” That is their prerogative. There is an enormous gulf between having someone else thrust his unsolicited or misapplied silver linings onto you, and discovering hope for one’s self. The story may ultimately sound very much like “God works in all things for good,” but there will be a galaxy of disfigurement and longing and disorientation in that confession. Give the person struggling through trauma the dignity of discovering and owning for himself where, and if, hope endures.

8. Love shows up in unexpected ways.

This is a mystifying pattern after trauma, particularly for those in broad community: some near-strangers reach out, some close friends fumble to express care. It’s natural for us to weight expressions of love differently: a Hallmark card, while unsatisfying if received from a dear friend, can be deeply touching coming from an old acquaintance.

Ultimately every gesture of love, regardless of the sender, becomes a step along the way to healing. If there are beatitudes for trauma, I’d say the first is, “Blessed are those who give love to anyone in times of hurt, regardless of how recently they’ve talked or awkwardly reconnected or visited cross-country or ignored each other on the metro.” It may not look like what you’d request or expect, but there will be days when surprise love will be the sweetest.

9. Whatever doesn’t kill you …

In 2011, after a publically humiliating year, comedian Conan O’Brien gave students at Dartmouth College the following warning:

"Nietzsche famously said, ‘Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.’ … What he failed to stress is that it almost kills you.”
Odd things show up after a serious loss and creep into every corner of life: insatiable anxiety in places that used to bring you joy, detachment or frustration towards your closest companions, a deep distrust of love or presence or vulnerability.

There will be days when you feel like a quivering, cowardly shell of yourself, when despair yawns as a terrible chasm, when fear paralyzes any chance for pleasure. This is just a fight that has to be won, over and over and over again.

10. … Doesn’t kill you.

Living through trauma may teach you resilience. It may help sustain you and others in times of crisis down the road. It may prompt humility. It may make for deeper seasons of joy. It may even make you stronger.

It also may not.

In the end, the hope of life after trauma is simply that you have life after trauma. The days, in their weird and varied richness, go on. So will you.

Catherine Woodiwiss, “A New Normal: Ten Things I’ve Learned About Trauma”  

geesh this was nice to read

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